A guide for navigating midlife identity transformations
I support people navigating burnout, sudden loss, career endings, spiritual awakenings, and other experiences that rewrite who you thought you were.
You built the life you were supposed to want. Then something happened — burnout, sudden loss, an ending you didn't choose, an awakening you didn't expect — and the person you were before no longer fits. You're somewhere in between now, and you don't have a map.
You’ve tried to analyze your way through this.
You've made the lists, weighed the options and told yourself to be grateful. The analysis that built your old life keeps reaching for this, only to come back empty. Something here doesn't resolve through intellectual analysis. The endless thought loops leave you frustrated and anxious.
Underneath, something else is happening.
A restlessness no vacation resolves. A flatness in the wins. You've tried new roles, new routines, and new projects. Each one helped for a while. Then the feeling of misalignment returned. You're starting to suspect the problem isn't the job, the relationship, or the city. It's the identity you've outgrown — and don't yet know how to leave behind.
Eventually, the questions get larger.
What is this life actually for? Who was I before I was told what to achieve and how to be? How do I want to spend my days? These are not signs that something has gone wrong. They are signs that something in you is waking up and ready to be listened to.
This is the threshold between who you've been and who you're becoming. I help people cross it.
Client Testimonies
“Andy helped me through a transformational period of my life. He pairs the intensity of a world-class Silicon Valley operator with the wisdom of someone who has done the inner work. He taught me the difference between the first mountain of achievement and the second mountain of meaning, and how to navigate the in-between when the old life no longer fits but the new one hasn't appeared. I started 2025 drained and exhausted. I ended it calmer, sharper, and more grounded than ever.
— Lloyed Lobo, Serial Entrepreneur
"Andy is truly unique and a rare find. As a highly successful tech executive who embarked on an inner journey, he brings a remarkable blend of scientific, neurological, spiritual, and psychological perspectives to his coaching. What sets Andy apart is his ability to combine depth with action-oriented, pragmatic guidance. His coaching is refreshingly practical."
— Gaurav Agarwal, Chief Operating Officer
"I had worked with many coaches in the past, but no one could understand the pressure of being the CEO of a venture capital-backed company. Andy has this unique combination of someone who understands the pressure of running a Silicon Valley company, and someone who also cares about being happy and at peace. This is rare and incredibly useful."
— Pamela Valdés Esteva, Tech Founder & CEO